Have you ever heard about “Hate Crimes?” A hate crime is killing people for no rational reasons. Criminals JUST kill people. How can people kill somebody for no apparent reason! They have hatred against the world because they were hurt from modern society. Imagine that you are suddenly killed while walking on a road. Don’t you think this is very scary?
This type of crime was first prevalent in Japan. Soon, it has spread throughout Asia. Because the gap between the rich and the poor is widening rapidly, China is also in danger of a Hate Crimes. Korea is not an exception. According to Korea National Police Agency statistics, the number of hate crimes is increasing; in 2007 there were 366, in 2008 there were 454, and in 2009 there were 572.
Most psychologists say that the rapid speed of social change and weakness of individual are the main causes of these crimes. This article will explain how some humans feel anguish living in the 21st century.
Is It Possible That One Person Can be Substituted for Another?
The heroine of the movie “Air Doll”, Nojomi , is a blow-up doll. This movie reveals how Nojomi suffers from emotional scars from living in a human society. Having a heart like a human, Nojomi gets hurt because she thinks herself just a substitute for someone’s sexual desires.
In this movie, Nojomi’s owner (Of course owner is a man) works in a restaurant part-time job. Because he is sick of human relationship, he does not lean on humans.
He finds comfort with the doll instead. Ironically, audience feel like he is also substitute of someone because he is temporary employee. It is also ironical the owner using an alternative are used same way like substitution. Important point is here. Can people be a substitution for another? The answer is definitely “NO!”. Because individuals have unique personality based on different environments they are in. So, what makes some people consider themselves they can be replaced for another? There are perhaps two reasons; one maybe a personal weakness and the other may relate to a social problem.
If individuals are mentally weak, they are lack of self-esteem. However, why do many people have low self-esteem? Perhaps the pressure by the society has an effect and cause insecurities and low self-worth.
A Social Problem: People Feel They Can be Replaced.
Our social history has had a negative effect on people. Over time, humans have been replaced by more effective and productive machines after the Industrial Revolution took place. After the Industry Revolution, the cottage industry turned to mass product industry. With this process, one product that could be sophisticated by a master was completed by division of labor. From that, human alienation was beginning. It downgraded the status of workers into a simple laborer who could not be satisfied from their work. And, this makes humans lose their self-esteem and think that anyone can replace their job.
Because of the rapid developing of technology, modern society depends highly on machines for production instead of the human workforce. Especially, in modern Korea, there are plenty of temporary contract employees. Increasing temporary contract employee rate is to save salary costs of companies. So enterprises contract employees for one or two years. When the contract is expired, employees could be let go. These employees may feel, “Oh, someone will be here to replace me.”
Furthermore, because the amount of highly educated people is increasing, there is an increase in competitiveness and people could feel they will be replaced by new blood. Especially, Koreans tend to evaluate people with results ignoring the progress or the process. Living in this atmosphere, individuals may feel unstable in their position. Constant competitive, comparison and disregarding their work effort can create our feelings of alienation.
What Makes Modern People Life Difficult Hikikomori
There is a new word “Hikikomori” that differs from the before-mentioned the Hate Crimes and it originated in Japan. It is the word indicating a person who hides in one’s room and does not try to form relationships with other people. Recently, several movies have depicted this type of person.
Cocoon is also a new word that indicates people who deny external stress by living in seclusion. This word originated in the United States. It shows people who retreat from the world are not only problem in Asia but worldwide.
What are the major causes of this phenomenon? First, it is basically attributable to the education system and competition related to passing entrance examinations. Initially, some students were against this school system in Japan, so they did not attend school and stayed in their rooms. Korea also has the same type of education system so similar situation could occur as we have seen some students cannot adapt to their school life.
Second, there is one more cause related to Hikikomori. That is high-speed internet. Since the development of the computer and internet, people easily satisfy their social relationship through these electronic devices.
As previously stated, there are many people who feel empty in movie “Air Doll.” There was a girl who appears to be bulimic and is continuously stuffing food into her mouth. Many people, maybe you too, consider bulimia as just a desire to lose weight and to ultimately look beautiful. But there are various causes relating to the bulimic phenomenon ; unpleasant feelings like depression, fatigue, nervousness. Bulimia is not a just related to the need to be beautiful. People who suffer from bulimia are doing it to perhaps fill their empty and hollow heart. The main cause of the bulimia is stress that people receive from modern society. They get a stress when they are competitiveness.
How do we solve stress in our lives? One way is to comprehend who you are above all else and not to try to live in society’s projection of what is perfect. If we do not know about ourselves, we may attach to a certain ideal in our head. Naturally, it leads to self-condemnation if these thought are unrealized. Sure, achieving higher goals is essential for our self-esteem, but we also need to realize our own capacity and limitations. Needless to say, it is also extremely important that you know yourself first!
Through Hikikomori and issues such as bulimia, we realize that modernization has brought many mental problems. Obsession is one of them. A boy who appears in Air Doll obsesses about maid; commonly, we call this people mania. It does not matter just finished hobbies. But, these days some people are so obsessive that they have difficulty living their lives well. They just pursue their obsessions. Because they fill the hollow heart, they find something to stimulate and soothe loneliness away. We must pay attention to others if they suffer loneliness. Regardless of all the mental problems, strong personal relations are a human’s fundamental desire.
In the movie Air Doll, the man says, “People bother me”. Watching this scene, most of the audience might feel sorrow because contemporary reality considers people tiresome. The 21st century is a period of increased technology and during this time, individuals can satisfy their curiosity and enjoy their personal life in virtual reality. Besides, developing Social Network Service, the communication in the virtual might be more comfortable and simple. But, like imbalanced nutrition harm to people, being one-sided way to communication is something wrong. Humans live in a society and they cannot live without reality communication with others. If you bother people, why don’t you break yourself first and express your feeling well? Do not hesitate to express yourself!
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Interview with consultant Jo Hye-jeong from the Student Counsel Center
Q: Are there many students to counsel who do not create relationship well? If it is right, why students are hard to make relationship?
A: “The number of students who visit the Student Counsel Center is approximately forty a day. Most of students who come to the Student Counsel Center discuss the hardship of forming personal relationships. There are many kinds of hardships about personal relationships. One of that is person do not speak sharply to other. The reason that they do not express themselves is they are pressed during socialization from family.
Usually, they are educated do not jealous other people and do not be greedy. But, having these feeling is natural to human. They should have to be educated way to handle feeling like jealous. If they were done socialization well, they do not have self-expression problem.
And, why do they worry about relationships? That is what we do as human beings. What they need is communication with people and to be recognized that it is a fundamental desire for humans. Difference between other gives stress and people naturally hate a sense of alienation.”