Hi! I am a freshman at the University of Seoul, and my name is Kang Back-ho (a fictitious name). Let me introduce myself: I am an unlucky guy who has never had a girlfriend throughout my short life. I have been turned down no less than 50 times. But you do not need to feel sorry for me.
I feel positive about myself because, I am still young and charming. And during secondary school, I was mad about studying and went to a boys’ school. So I had relatively little chance of finding a girlfriend. But, now that I am at university, I have so many chances to meet girls.
Now, I will tell you about my new approach this year to find a love.
When I first entered university, I was very happy to get out of the confined life and cramming system of high school, because now I could study in a free and open atmosphere. And I think of university as a paradise of romance and youthful energy.
It was heartwarming to join the drinking parties that occurred frequently at the begining of the term and I struck up acquaintanceships in my major.
After a month, there were only boys around me. Mixing with male friends was so much fun. We had such happy times: We played soccer and basketball and drank together.
However, as time went by, sweetheart (campus couple) began popping up around university, and my eligible friends started going out with female college student. I felt that, in contrast to couples, the position of the singles group, including me, was more and more miserable.
As I got together with other guys in a similar situation, I realized that I was not alone feeling in this way. Therefore, a project called ‘the escape from single group’ was created. The main aim of this group is to inform members of opportunities to go on blind dates and to give them psychological and material help with the dating experience.
Thanks to the assistance from it, I participated in several blind dates. But artificial meetings do not suit me, and there has been no woman who has captivated my heart.
And whenever there has been a girl in whom I was interested, she had a boyfriend or liked someone else, which broke my heart. I am approaching the historical moment when I will have been rejected one hundred times. I never want to meet that moment. In the end I failed to find a girl friend from other universities.
If I had a girlfriend, we could travel together and see movies and make beautiful memories together. And everyday I would call her and write letters to her. If she was tired, I could carry her on my back and I would write her assignments for her. If it rains, I would have an umbrella ready for her, and if she says she is cold, I would give her the clothes off my back without underwear. I would make sincere efforts for her.
Then, the second best policy, which I tried, was to go out with a girl from the University of Seoul.
First, I tried to win the hearts of girls in my class.
And then I started working out in earnest and saved up to buy new and fashionable clothes. Before long, I will have 5 savings pass books.
Finally, I kept up as much as possible with the latest hair style and up-to-date humors.
However, in the end I failed to find a girlfriend from either within or outside of my university. I cannot even describe how I feel when I was rejected.
Do I have overly high standards for women? Or is there no woman who can appreciate a splendid man like me? If there is one thing that can cheer me up, it is hearing about couple who have split up. Whenever I hear this kind of news, I smile brightly.
However, during my time of trying to find a girlfriend, I realized several things.
The single person is happier than couples who have split up, because when a couple split up, they do not talk to each other and even look at their each other. They are in an awkward situation.
But, couples are distinctly happy people. First, they can gain useful experiences and knowledge to help them choose a suitable spouse later on, and feel a kind of friendship which they can not get from the same gender.
Second, they realize their own sexual attractiveness and take responsibility for someone of the opposite gender.
Above all, it brings them happiness just to know the opposite gender exists, which is a momentous thing in itself. Couples are clearly happy people. But singles are not unhappy.
All people has a light and shadow in their life. The most important thing is that he or she realize this himself or herself.
I am now going to a department store and a beauty salon.
This coming Sunday, there is a blind date with girls from
¡à¡à Womans University.
It does not matter whether there is a woman who is destined to be with me.
Now I am so happy.
Because, I am realizing for myself in this way.
Before to finish, I would like to tell my poor friends who are crying this cold winter and to all the singles throughout the country.
If I succeed at my blind date, I will introduce a girl to you.
Before this year is over, I hope you meet someone who loves you and you love.
If you do not meet the one who was destined for you, remember it is also important enjoy time with your family and friends. The biggest fear in the world is not a death or a war, but having a lonely heart.
Cheer up everybody!
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